Thursday, August 5, 2010

Do all relationships come with the past ? Soch Lo!


PAST...!!! What is this past ?
Why do we hold on to our past ?
What is with this past and us that we make our lives and break our lives depending on our past, with our past, learning from our past. No matter what you do, your past will always be a part of you and it only depends on whether you want to smile at your past or run away from your past.

ALMOST every relationship comes with the past...It is the past...Your present becomes your past one day, your future will become your past some day... Most of the people run away from it, even in a relationship.

So what if a girl was engaged to someone else before getting married to someone else ? So what if a boy was in love with another girl before committing to someone else ? So what if a girl has had previous relationships ? SO WHAT ? Why does anyone who is currently in a relationship worried about the girl or boy's past ?
Isn't it quite clear that those relations died their own slow death and hence they are a part of the past and not the present ? Isn't it enough that you are in his/her life at the moment ? Or is it that you are afraid that you will become a part of his/her past ? How can one not have a past ? With oodles of love flowing everywhere, its quite natural for two people to fall in love and like the trend of break-up is dancing everywhere, it's even more natural for a person to break up atleast 2-3 times with 2-3 people before he/she/it finds a stable partner and even more stability in their own life and mentality.

It's not a big deal to have a past because your life is who you are and you are what your life is and your PAST is one of the most important chapters of your life that is perpetual till your death and you should love it, and it's not even a big deal to accept someone else's past whole-heartedly (well only if that person has even an ounce of sanity and sensibility :P) but most of the people make a big deal out of this whole past-thingy.

For crying out loud, you yourself have a story of your own, a tale to hide, a tale to tell. Things and people from your past might or might not drop-by in your present. If your relationships were sour, end them and move on. But don't expect them to never bother you again in future.


Do all relationships come with the past ? Yes they do. And that is more or less like a universal fact. Those who deny this, are just fooling themselves with blind notions and arguments. And it's not bad to have a past. It just goes to prove that your life, your past hasn't gone unnoticed, you have made something of it.

You break up because you're not in love anymore, you break up because you cannot tolerate that person anymore, you break up because of physical and mental torture, you break up because of possessiveness, you break up because of family, you break up because of bad health problems, you break up...because of n no. of reasons...so what ? Should you not let your current beau or your husband/wife know about your past ? Well most of the people say or rather state it as a "rule" to not let your "future" know about your "past" ? But why ? Your past is nothing to be ashamed of ? And there is no reason to hide it either. It's a part of you and it should be gracefully accepted by others.

But who would understand that ? We are all often clouded by our ego and immaturity and lack of sensibility to see and comprehend the visible and evident truth. Very few of us actually accept our partner with their past and when that past haunts the present, all those who are a party to this, lose track of what is right and what is not and what is their role and what they should do ?
The most complicated thing in life is to lead a simple life and we just blow out of proportion some petty things that don't require so much attention that it starts ruining our lives :P.

All relationships come with the past, present and future and living that tenure and experiencing different facets of emotions is what you should be glad about...!!!


12 comments:

  1. Wow!! Good one there..
    I especially liked this part of the post. It's so damn true..---> For crying out loud, you yourself have a story of your own, a tale to hide, a tale to tell. Things and people from your past might or might not drop-by in your present. If your relationships were sour, end them and move on. But don't expect them to never bother you again in future.

    Keep writing! :D
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    RoHiT...
    dial-a-denial.blogspot.com

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  2. Once you get out of a relationship, you must be ready to close the damned book, forever. There is no turning back and you must be brave enough to face the consequences. Once you are brave at heart, neither your past nor the haunting ghosts from past can haul you to the unnecessary pits of misery.

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  3. well nice post..but i guess u just cant presume dat past is dead, its evident dat it lives as long as u do...so u need to think of it...

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  4. @ gg-heheee :P thnxxx :D

    @ arjit-yep

    @ me-thnx :p

    @ namit-no 1's askin u 2 kill a part of u o a part of ur past, but u shud b ready 2 live wid it in a peaceful manner rather dan lettin it ruin ur present :).

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  5. It always hampers a relationship. Someone's past can be neglected but not when it keeps coming across your eyes.
    It is sad to be part of such a dilemma-tic person's life who is confused between two.
    But if things have gone by , one can live and enjoy his/her life with her/him.

    "Every rose has its thorn"

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  6. jst happen to come by ur blog....
    and dis is indeed a good topic to go about...

    i agree that everyone mite or has a past....
    bt thn v also wud hve to agree that it is dis past which stands between the present...the present has to suffer much bcoz of dis past thingie...

    the present is deprived of all what should be its share in a relationship....n everything which happens in the present is compared with the past...

    i have suffered much bcoz of dis...actually past makes both the partners suffer....

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  7. @ Gv-wen u avoid/neglect sumthin/sum1, it's perpetual appearance will always b traumatic 4 u coz u r tryin 2 escape it. D more u fight sumthin, d more it poses a prob 4 u.
    Things will never go by, dey will exist in dis world around u, sumtimes dormant, sumtimes active, sumtimes volatile, but it all depends on how u luk @ it n how on terms r u wid it.

    @ yogesh-M sorry 2 knoe bout ur sufferin. I agree that d past does hamper d present, but everythin that has a beginnin, also has an end. It takes two to tango and similarly both d people in d present relationship need 2 understand n gracefully isolate that topic 4 gud.
    It's easier said than done, but one day you and every1 around u will come 2 terms wid it and ur suffering will hv a happy endin 4 gud :). Just have faith.

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  8. Came across your blog by accident. But thoroughly loved your writing style :-)
    I specially loved these sentences, "The most complicated thing in life is to lead a simple life and we just blow out of proportion some petty things that don't require so much attention that it starts ruining our lives :P."
    Great blog!!
    Keep writing :-)

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  9. @ shobha - hey thnx a lot :D. i guess gud things happen only by accidents lol :p

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  10. Hie,I just loved what you wrote:)..Thumbs Up for yu:)

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